Dear Richardf,
Be weary of self-righteousness. Are you trying to overcome this sin for your own self, to make yourself feel righteous or be righteous? Or are you attempting to overcome this sin because Christ has commanded it in your life? Has He personally convicted you of this sin?
If you are doing it by your own will, you will fail. Your power is nothing. You cannot succeed. You will try and try and continue to fail. You may even reach a point where you stop accepting God's forgivness, or even worse, the Devil may fill you with thoughts that say, "Am I even saved? How could I possibly sin like this and be saved?"
Firstly, you must realize that Christ has already delivered you from all sin. It's gone. It's done. The cross is final. You have been pardoned. You have God's grace. Eat this. Breath this. Accept this. Live this. You are forgiven. A person who truly knows forgiveness doesn't ask for it, instead, they say "Thank you." Thank you Jesus for dying for me!!! Thank you for saving me!!!
Obviously, if you have truly accepted forgiveness, you also have a desire to turn away from all sin. You want to stop sinning. You don't like sin. It bothers you. It goes against the Spirit inside of you. If inside you are truly a new person, then sin has no place in you.
However, you are not yet complete. You still fight against the Devil, temptation, and the flesh. We all are still awaiting that glorious day of Christ's return where we will be changed in the twinkling of an eye.
So what about this current sin that has you cornered?
Firstly, stop focusing on yourself. Stop looking at your own sin. Look at Christ. Turn your view toward Him. Follow Him. Everytime you worry about your sin, the sin you were supposed to have given Christ upon your baptism, you are looking back at an old life, an old way. Look toward heaven and keep your thoughts focused Him.
Secondly, abandon yourself to Christ. Take up your cross. This doesn't mean that you conquer sin by your own power. This doesn't mean that Richard becomes a superhero. You are weak. You have always been weak. You will always be weak. It means, you fall down on your hands and knees pleading with Christ to take over. Give yourself to Him. Give your sin to Him. Ask Him to take it and deliever you. Be persistent. Do not give up hope until the work in you has been complete. It may not happen instantly. God may have to work slowly in you. It may take months or even years. However, do this daily.
In John 6:48, Jesus is quoted as saying, "I am the bread of life." And in the model prayer Jesus says, "Give us this day our daily bread."
Do you do this? Do you pray every day that Jesus will come into you? Do you ask for you daily portion of the life in Christ?
In Luke 9:23, Jesus is quoted as saying, "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me."
We are to take up our cross "daily." The work of Christ in our life is a continual process of being renewed. We need Jesus everyday, every minute of every day. We need Him.
Many Christians are under a strange impression that once we are saved, God takes away our sin and then sends us on our way.
The entire death of Christ was to clean us of our sin, not so that we can be righteous, but that we can be one with Him. The real sin of a Christian is not the act of sinning, it is the act of denying Christ. We need to keep and maintain our union with Christ. He needs to be our daily bread. We eat three meals a day. We should pray no less.
The only way to glorify God is by allowing Christ to work in you. We are to reflect God's glory, not be God's glory. We are supposed to be like the moon that reflects the light of the sun. The moon doesn't make light. Instead, it is only beautiful when the sun hits it. Without the sun, the moon is a big ball of dust.
We should be the same. Everytime we try to generate light by our own power, we are just a big ball of dust. Everytime God works in us, everytime His light illuminates us, we shine. Let your light shine by allowing Jesus to enter in. Once He fills you, then you will have glorified God. Do not worry about your dust, God could make the stones cry out, but instead, He has chosen you!!!
In love,
Blake