There seems to be a vital ingredient missing in this thread: confession. How can anyone repent without first confessing his shortcomings? I’m not referring to a religious rite or a generalized formulated statement – but just plain honesty about the deep innermost parts of one’s being.
I fear that many fail to appreciate the long and painful process of brokenness that leads to self-awareness (confession). We prefer the hasty path towards repentance. Yet, without honesty, we will only ever attain superficial repentance at best.
Confession is the process of moving beyond the denials, discovering ourselves and agreeing with what we see – that we, indeed have chosen the wide path. Confession involves the stripping of all our cover-ups, defenses, and self-righteousness. It involves the convicting work of the Spirit.
Confession is the most difficult hurdle to overcome - even harder than repentance. Only when we can practice true confession, that is a - honesty and admission, will we move towards repentance, willingly and eagerly.
I wonder: why is there such a dearth of discussion about confession - at least in comparison to topics on repentance? Is it that we don’t see the need? Is it that we ourselves have short-circuited the path of honest confession? Are we ourselves still in denial about a lot of our own sin? (Of couse, we can't answer that honestly apart from divine revelation)
How can a preacher expect his pew-dwellers to be honest about themselves when he fails to be honest about himself?
Our spiritual leaders must set the example. They must preach from the position of weakness and neediness and not from the position of “better-than-you”. They must recognize their own fallenness, if they want their underlings to do so.
We need good role-models. After all, people, like sheep, will follow.
We all know preachers/ religious people/ parents, etc who never admit their shortcomings, and yet are quite bold in denouncing the sins of others. However, that is never very effective.
Really, no matter what sin we denounce, in some way we are guilty of the same root cause of that sin. After all, we all struggle with remnants of the old nature.
From the book: Fundimentals of Preaching by J Killinger:
"Confession permits other people to think about their failures without feeling that they are under attack. They can identify with the speaker."
Diane