In the last chapter of Genesis we find a story that closely resembles the manner in which God comforts his people:
When Joseph's brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, "What if Joseph holds a grudge against us and pays us back for all the wrongs we did to him?" So they sent word to Joseph, saying, "Your father left these instructions before he died: 'This is what you are to say to Joseph: I ask you to forgive your brothers the sins and the wrongs they committed in treating you so badly.' Now please forgive the sins of the servants of the God of your father." When their message came to him, Joseph wept.
His brothers then came and threw themselves down before him. "We are your slaves," they said.
But Joseph said to them, "Don't be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don't be afraid. I will provide for you and your children." And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.? Gen. 50:15-21
“ And he comforted them , and spoke to their hearts.” MKJV
Imagine Joseph that day reading the letter (or however he received the instructions) from his brothers. Wouldn’t you have been filled with grief too? Surely Joseph must have thought, “And this, now? After all I have done for them? After all those years I demonstrated total and complete forgiveness?” Surely Joseph’s heart must have broken by the word from his brothers. Evidently they were still harboring suspicion of him - a sign that they had failed to fully trust his forgiveness. They still carried guilt, and that is why they could not trust him.
At this vulnerable time with their father Jacob now dead, the brothers feared that Joseph might unleash a vengeance on them. It would certainly have been a deserved one. They even begged to be his slaves. Now, that may sound pious and humble. But it wasn't. It betrayed their pride. Several years earlier they had been absolved and given freedom, which included a land of blessing in Goshen. Yet now they were afraid to walk in the victory that was theirs. Really they were leaning on their own efforts to buy their way out of their guilt. They were trying to use Joseph for their own selfish ends.
That is the tragic outcome of unresolved guilt.
Joseph’s response to their failure reflects the heart of God. ” He comforted them.” Joseph did not chew them out; nor did he pretend that what they did was okay, nor did he take advantage of their guilt. Instead he comforted them, that is - he reassured them of their pardon! He did so by turning their eyes towards God. ”You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good… “ And those brothers themselves were the beneficiaries of that good!! How much better can grace get!!!
... Joseph wept.
God must surely weep when we, his children fail to fully trust in his mercy and grace, when our consciences harbor fragments of doubt, like: “God can’t possibly forget my past sins. Surely he must hold something against me. Surely I must do something to earn his love.” Oh - we are likely not aware of such thoughts until a crisis invades our lives – like when our “Jacob” dies – that is, some earthly form of shelter for our unresolved guilt is ripped away. Maybe it is a trust in our own good efforts, our successes, our good nature towards others, our religious habits, or the approvals of our church. Suddenly, in the vacuum our past comes back to haunt us. We thought that God’s grace was sufficient; but now, in the moment of crisis it’s not working for us. We are terrified. We simply are too paralyzed to walk in the victory that God has provided. Nothing but his comfort will help us.
Let’s admit, the experience of guilt is terrifying. When it is not resolved it destroys people and relationships. It launches its victims into pitiful addictions and other sins, all to deaden their consciences. But more subtly, and all too common for the people of God, it launches us into a willingness to degrade ourselves and sell ourselves as slaves in order to buy what we already have been freely given. Religion thrives on this kind of guilt. Religious people tend to aggrivate or mask guilt rather than offer God's comfort.
There is only one way out, and Joseph demonstrated it: It is God’s comfort – the “consolation of Israel” – that is through Christ.
How well do we allow ourselves to be comforted by God?
How well do we offer others this comfort? I suppose it is in proportion to the comfort that we have received for ourselves? (2 Cor. 1:3,4)
Diane