Well I will start buy saying that I am quit sure that you may believe something is wrong with my post. I would also like to say that this mans sin is most certainly the pandemic sin of men today, and I include masturbation with that because unless the place we are indulging in porno is uncondusive to it, or we have no time our desire always takes us there. And in large groupes of men who are honest, this is always confessed. And I have a hard time believing that alot of men were going to jump forth with REVELATION from God for this man for advice, Why??? Because I struggled with this problem to from the time I was twelve yrs, untill recent, I was raised in a family who are evangelical chrristians one and all on both sides of my family, My father is a Pastor as well as my Grandfather and Greatgrand, my uncles and a couple of my closest cousins, one of my uncle's runs one of the largest ministerys in the evangelical church in the world, and guess what? when I was struggeling with this (even after I was saved, married, in semonairy, ) I got no real help from anyone around me. Now I got alot of advice like what I read on here, and my guy friends who were in school with me were open about dealing with it to,(all of them) but no matter how much we confessed it, fasted, and prayed, I would find myself back there again many times the very day after many of these things were done, thousands of times,and thats the realy real of it. It got to the point were I was constantly saying to myself what am I asking for forgivenes for?, I know I'm gonna do it again. Recently I relized a few things. One of them was that, I truly had no reverence (or fear) of God, you relize this when you tell yourself that God is watching you right now, in hopes to keep you from doing this sin again, and yet you still do it. Did I fell that he just new my heart and his grace was going to cover me? No, I just had no real fear of him and his demand for me to be holy, afterall i certainly would not do this thing in front of my earthly father, looking right at me. Then I relized if all these men, even men in high places were dealing with this, they certainly were not going to probably give me the uncensored gospel truth, how do you reveal the depth of someones sin to them, when you are bound by the same sin? I also want you to know that it is not the actual sin itself that is the deadley part it, it is the love of it, seen threw the lack of repentence, you say I don't or he does not love it, I know this was hard for me aswell, but the lack of true repentence is a saftey measure, we know if we become truley repetent of this sin we must admit the state of our soul,and most of all we don't get to keep doing it anymore. Those are hard thoughts to bear. I said what i said not because I am proud and holy, but because I am just as low as he, and I love him and any man who is in this shamfilled state of life, it sucks. I have lot's more to say But last thing, I told him to pray, pray, pray in the last statement I made, not as a way of dealing with this situation, but after he overcomes it, to keep it from overcoming him, and about me telling someone I don't know that he may not really be saved, well I don't actually care for the current church's interpretation of what our rights are,as far as what we can say to one another, along the line's you of judgement and so forth, i beleive God intends for us to hold mirrors in front of eachother as long as we have held it in front of our selves first, But I will let God's word the word that told me Hay wake up!! you are no longer even saved, speak for itself I hope you read it all, and with a heart that says Lord teach me, afterall in the church today we don't let our brother in Christ tell us anything, God forbid God use someone who is supposed to be our brother to speak in love to us, thank God the early church was not this way, we would not have the gospel today. But we are weary and we should be, esspecialy today, but we must discern what God is in and what he is not in. The last scripture on this page was my intention in the first letter.
1 John 5:16-18
16If anyone sees his brother [believer] committing a sin that does not [lead to] death (the extinguishing of life), he will pray and [God] will give him life [yes, He will grant life to all those whose sin is not one leading to death]. There is a sin [that leads] to death; I do not say that one should pray for that.
17All wrongdoing is sin, and there is sin which does not [involve] death [that may be repented of and forgiven].
18We know [absolutely] that anyone born of God does not [deliberately and knowingly] practice committing sin, but the One Who was begotten of God carefully watches over and protects him [Christ's divine presence within him preserves him against the evil], and the wicked one does not lay hold (get a grip) on him or touch [him].
Hebrews 5:11-14 and 6:1-3
11We have much to say about this, but it is hard to explain because you are slow to learn. 12In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God's word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! 13Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. 14But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
6:1Therefore let us leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity,not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death,[a] and of faith in God, 2instruction about baptisms, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment. 3And God permitting, we will do so.
Hebrews 10:26-31
26If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. 28Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. 29How much more severely do you think a man deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God under foot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? 30For we know him who said, "It is mine to avenge; I will repay,"[a] and again, "The Lord will judge his people."[b] 31It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
1 john 2:15-17
15Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.
4Everyone who sins breaks the law; in fact, sin is lawlessness. 5But you know that he appeared so that he might take away our sins. And in him is no sin. 6No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.
7Dear children, do not let anyone lead you astray. He who does what is right is righteous, just as he is righteous. 8He who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil's work. 9No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God. 10This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not a child of God; nor is anyone who does not love his brother.
Jude
17But, dear friends, remember what the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ foretold. 18They said to you, "In the last times there will be scoffers who will follow their own ungodly desires." 19These are the men who divide you, who follow mere natural instincts and do not have the Spirit.
20But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit. 21Keep yourselves in God's love as you wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life.
22Be merciful to those who doubt; 23snatch others from the fire and save them; to others show mercy, mixed with fear—hating even the clothing stained by corrupted flesh.
telling someone youhave never met that they are not truly saved because they struggle with a besetting sin is not wise at all.