heart for only one!

In these last few weeks, God has been showing alot of the wrong that I have been and have done.
as I had posted about being in cars alone with guys. I knew these thing were wrong, Then God showed I couldn't do it anymore. Praise God
Even if it just giving someone a ride. When I went to AL, a women told about gurading our emtions. Having our eyes only on Jesus. Runing with all you have, being married to Christ. Not giving your heart anyone eles, until the man you were to marry came along. She taked about biblical ways guys are act towards women. Such as going to the her father, or the pastor. So I prayed this would my heart, that I would be a godly women. Keeping my heart guarded. But when I got back a brother called me, wanting to hang out. before I wouldn't thought nothing of it, but now I want to be prue in everyway.
It has been so heavy on my heart,
Now I understand, how it is so good when guy has to go to the father, the women can say no without any worry's
Please pray I have wisdom, when this brother calls, what should I say?
Please pray I will have the power to say no when I need to.
Please I will be wise. I fear I will given a little,
Please pray brother know I don't want to hange out with any guy alone, no matter what.

Please my brother will repect me, and I will repect him.
In his love
charlene

"a woman must hide her heart so deep in Christ that a man must seek God in order to find it." ~ unknown
May God;s daughter seek their God, and fall in love with Him
This my prayer

In his love
charlene

In his love

I in the past I saw this brother, and even prayed with him alone, I didn't think anything was wrong with it. But the last two weeks. I heart to kept pure. I did a one 180 in some things, God put it so heavy on my heart. Now it is living it. I sent him a email yesterday with the link to paul washer on dating. I did mine hanging out with him as a brother as long as others where there too. That is Funny you said that sermon. I just want to be honest and not send mixed messages. In the past I have hung our with guys as brothers, and there was mixs up of emtions. I don't want someone to think I like them, that is wrong on my part. I need to be very careful in how I am around my brother, with body lang or my words.
thanks for your prayers.
thanks

Tear of joy sent it to me,
is has been a blessing to me

In his love
charlene

Charlene,

You cannot 'be' wrong. You cannot 'be' bad. You are in Christ, and therefore perfect.

But the old, dead you can do wrong, or walk unwisely, and lead you into uncomfortable situations.

A hundred years ago, a godly young woman of good character would never be alone in a room with a man that was not her brother or father.

She would not go out walking without a friend, lest she be thought to be a woman of loose morals.

And she would never meet a man alone under any circumstances until they were formally engaged.

Fifty years ago, she could walk alone on a street, and not be considered to be a woman of loose morals, but she would not be alone with the young man without her parent's permission. And people didn't really date all that much until they knew each other well. They sat on the porch, with or without her family, and got to know each other.

In those days, an open door was considered enough of a chaperone to not be 'alone', for anyone could walk in at any time, and young men of good upbringing knew that.

Nowadays, you need to have a card printed ahead of time to hand out to the men you meet, telling them how you expect to be treated, and why.

You are a young woman, but you are fully adult, and therefore must guard yourself.

Would your brother be willing to talk to this young man for you? If not, then write down the information on a letter or 6"x8" card, and the next time he calls, tell him to come over, meet your brother, and if your brother is not at hand, give the young man your 'rules' of behavior, thank him for coming over, and then tell him not to call you unless he can abide by your rules.

Just remember to tell him that it is not personal, and that it is what God has just shown you are to do. You may have acted differently in the past, but your new rules that you set for yourself must be abided by.

He'll respect you for it. He won't like it, but he'll respect you. And he'll know where he stands with you, which is a lot more than most men know these days.

Always keep a copy of your rules with you, in case someone asks you out for a drive, or for a date. Or even to double check if something is allowed by your rules. Laugh over it, but keep those rules handy. Make them take the rules, and you seriously.

Above all memorise the rules you are choosing for yourself. And keep plenty of copies...you obviously get asked out a lot!

And yes, I am perfectly serious. No one knows the rules anymore. So write your own, and make them available frequently...like everytime they want you to break a rule!

Or everytime you want to.

Blessings,

Forrest

THis is what is hard that so many guys don't know the way they should act around women. We were in a group last night with two guys, and we going to pray, then the other guy had to leave, I made my pray quick and left too. I know the Lord knows my heart. I am trying to change my ways.
I wrote an email, but he didn't read it. I have to ask my brother, maybe he can call him. I don't know. I am not going to give my number out to any guys anymore. If I give a number it will be my brothers number i give if they need to get it in touch with me.

"give the young man your 'rules' of behavior, thank him for coming over, and then tell him not to call you unless he can abide by your rules."

I need to do this, so I know and able to stand on them. It is hard to tell them that 's all.

"He'll respect you for it. He won't like it, but he'll respect you. And he'll know where he stands with you, which is a lot more than most men know these days"
please pray I this will be done. we can repect each other.

Thanks you may God be with me,
In Hi slove
charlene

hey I wrote him a letter , and he wrote back saying he repected what I had to say about not hanging out alone. I feel much better being honest.
In His love
charlene

It always seems so hard to be honest, because the whole world is lying right and left to everyone about everything!

But the nice thing about a letter is that you can say whatever you need to, that it is not personal, but just what you do.

And I'm so glad you tried it, and that it worked!

By the way, it doesn't mean you can't meet someone for a cup of coffee, a soft drink, or an ice cream cone - just find your own way there, and home again.

Blessings,

Forrest

I am glad I wrote the letter. I was able to say no so much easiler
of coffee, a soft drink, or an ice cream cone - ie I can't eat or drink any of those, about tea or water

may God richly bless you

thanks again.
In his love
charlene

I was looking for true love. I questioned
The doubted of such thing, yet my heart
Was in eager purist. My childless dreams
Were imprinted on my heart, I had the
Strange perpastion that a frog could
Turn into a prince with a kiss, if only I found the
Right one, so foolishly I leap from one
Frog to next,
the final reality hit
These types of frogs would never turn into
a prince.
So thought
To look in other type, when soon I found
Looking was trivial and hopeless
Then I found that Christ was my true
So in the ending of the purist love found it’s way to me

May I fall In love with my LOrd more everyday
loving Him my all my heart, all my mind all my soul
in his love
charlene

It is my desire to keep my heart and emtions pure.
"Save yourself emotionally for your husband, for your wife. I believe that God’s best, God’s perfect will, God’s sweetest order, as much as possible is that you be a virgin physically, and emotionally when you enter into this matter of marriage."

It seems that today we brake the l ines of keeping our hearts guarded..

I pray for myself and all my sister we will be guarded.

in his love
charlene

Let this be my prayer my drive and passion that my fouse in life is on Christ. I am in a race and so my eyes are to be fixed on Christ. He is my life and my portion. This is who I live for, this is who I will obey and die for. I am not to please man, but God who test my heart. He is my husband, my lover and I am his bride. So as I run let my eyes be on Jesus Christ. I am to guard my heart at all cost and be wise with all interactions with guys. I can't let anything hold me back from runing my race, let them encourage or run with me, but I can't stop running nor can't I slow down. For I am driven within with a passion that only grows stronger, so it my desire to run harder and faster everyday. My heart is yeilded and given to the King, and now I run and live for Him alone. Whom my heart loves.. I put my heart in the best care, In his hands,, Let us live a life given and yeild to Him...

In his love
charlene