thanks for the input brothers and sisters.. i really wanted to hear someone's insight on this because this is my current meditations, how to be pleasing to God.
i just want to share some of the insights God has given me..
first, be pleasing to Him is not directly related to His love. His love for us His children is perfect and eternal. for us humans we tend to love only those we like or those who are pleasing to us. but it is not with God. if you are a children of God you will no longer try to please Him to gain favor from Him or for Him to love you, you will please Him beacuse of your love for him inspired by His great love for us..
second, i believe for most Christian they are pleasing to God to the extent that they are obedient to to His every comamand. that's true, but you can still be unpleasing to Him if you are doing all of it trusting on your strengh and wisdom. i believe it is not just obedience but obedient trust. depending on God on everything. He is not please on the works of the flesh. he is please with us if we continualy trust and confidently depend on Him in everything we do.
we see the example of our Lord Jesus while He was here on earth. He lived a life of complete and perfect obedience to the Father and He do it in total dependence on the Father. there is a verse in the somewhere in John saying that Jesus did not do anything with consulting the Father and our Lord himself says: "The Son cannot do anything by himself". when he became human he cannot do anything by himself so he needed to depend on the Father in everything. and this is the way Jesus want us to live. our God came down and shows us how we should live not just by teaching us but by being an example that we should folow..