Claudette,
I just noticed your introduction....welcome! I am glad you fnd this site inspiring. Many of us do - it is my favorite one on the web, but then I have never checked it out that thoroughly - do not have the time.
I, too, mothered five children. All are adults and one has gone on to be with the LORD - she died from brain cancer (glioblastoma). Presently we have 9 grands and one more on the way. I know now what the older people mean when they said that if they knew grandchildren would be so much fun, they would have had them first! Yes, now we can sit back and relax with them and let their parents take the responcibility to discipline them!
Raising children is tough, hard work. We also have prodigals although the one would not call himself that, or maybe neither one would. All we can do is pray for them and pray that we/I would not interfere with God's work in their lives. Moms can easily do that, you know; we get impatient.
I asked our oldest son "I wonder who is raising who: the parents the children or the children the parents?" He suggested it works both ways. Children have an uncanny way of exposing our weaknesses, making us much more aware of how useless we are without the abiding presence of the Spirit.
Do not give up. Just express your frustrations to the LORD who is just waiting for you to do so. He wants you more then you ever will want Him. Sobering, do you not think?
God bless, my dear!
ginnyrose