All i really have to offer are questions, cause im a confused boy.

i really dislike going out in public, i have a fear i guess, i use to get major paranoia going out, im super self conscience, and basically when i go out i dont know how to act, what to say, its like im putting on a big act when im around people, i guess my problem is i dont know how to be myself, but then i dont even know who i am. i need some advice, im pretty sure i start a job this week, actually go in tom. to fill out some papers, its only at a grocery store, but i will be surrounded by public.

i know prayer, but honestly i do not have any discernment when it comes to hearing or knowing what God is telling me.

Mike,
You are not alone.
There are a lot of people who are Christians, who don't like to go out much.
I have been a Christian a long time, and still find myself at times, trying to please people, and sometimes I don't want to be around them at all.

I am around people a lot, and find it great joy when I can have a day at Home to watch video's, etc.
Listen to Sermons.

Just try to take it a day at a time.
God knows you feel this way, and He will help you.
Who knows who will get saved where you work, because of you.

I ask God to help you.
To go before you, and give you His Words to speak, and that you will excel in your job.
In Jesus Name.

Nellie

In God you will find a Father who really cares
and understands you. He knows your name and
He is near to listen to your heart. His truth
will clear your confused, His peace will calm
your anxieties, His love will embrace you.
Get to know your Heavenly Father, listen for
His voice to guide you and lead you. Speak
to Him in prayer and He will hear you and
answer you. Learn to relate to Him like a
Father and a Friend.

I know what you go through. I was the little boy that held on to daddy's pants legs at church meetings. When I was a teenager, I was the one that preferred standing off in the corner of the crowd, or better yet taking a walk in the fields.
But grace is available for all our needs, Matt. My dream as a boy was to go to Alaska or the Yukon and have a little cabin about 10 miles from the nearest neighbor. Serious!
But grace! Yes, grace has changed me, and is still changing me. I have actually been preaching in Times Square subway station on a Friday evening, where thousands pass by. And, of course, preaching Jesus to a crowd like that is a sure way to make an absolute fool of yourself in the eyes of man. Oh, the foolishness of preaching!
So if God can take an tried and true "anti-social" like myself and put him in Times Square preaching--and enjoying it!-- then what can He do for you?
The answer is "better things yet!"
And the key is HE doing it, not my myself...or yourself.
Faith, courage, and grace to you!
The kingdom has come and the King wants to share it with us weak creatures.
In HIM,
Mike

Hi MattC,

Be sure to ask Him specifically for these things that you feel are lacking. Then trust that He is working them out in you. He is faithful in leading us out of all of these things that bind us - for He is our Saviour. Just keep your eyes upon Him in the midst of your trials and He will lead you home.

Matt,

As I read your post, one can easily sense that here, indeed, is a very insecure person and he knows it. So what is the remedy?

If we work at the root of it, take care of it, the rest should fall in place. And that is not too hard.

The root as I perceive it is a too much emphasis on "I", self. You focus so much on "I" and you are losing a healthy perspective of reality. Think about that a moment!

How to remedy this fixation on self? It should go without saying but you need to get ALL of your sins under the blood, OK? Nothing else will work if this is not taken care of. Now that you are washed clean, you ask Jesus to show you what HE wants you to do. Be yoked together with him - understand this analogy? When one is yoked with another, one has to lead, just like a team of horses - there is a lead horse, if not. the team cannot pull. Now be very sensitive to the HOLY SPIRIT and do as he bids you, knowing He will not ask you without HIM giving you the power or grace to fulfill it. Do NOT look at yourself at all, do NOT even consider whether you will be able to carry it off. NO! NO! no looking at yourself! Period!

Ok, now look to Jesus. When you are in a situation and feel that fear coming on, just ask Jesus, "well, now what would you have me do?" and then do it when he tells you. Simply put, it means submission. That is all. Simple but so hard for those who are self-willed and I would guess all have to deal with this on some level. Think of others and how you can best help them! Do not think of your abilities or lack of them. Just do it. And you know what will happen? You will find that fear leave you. ("For God hath not given you a spirit of fear but of a sound mind.." 2 Timothy 1:7. There is another fear one should have but it is not the kind we are talking about here).

Mind if I share a testimony? You just read it! Actually, I used to be so afraid of people - my husband still talks about it when the subject comes up. Many acquaintances today will find this hard to believe. Today I fear very few people, thanks to the Holy Spirit. Knowing this comes from the LORD, I know that when my eyes are diverted to myself, fear sets in and woe is me! Remember the story of Peter walking on the water: when he looked at his progress, his surroundings, he started sinking. There is a profound principle involved here. Do not forget that!

Hope this helps!

ginnyrose

thank you guys.