Have you ever heard of a situation where God led a man to be with a woman he has absolutely no interest, attraction, or care for? (In 2009 America)
Where would this voice be coming from? =)
Santana, do you mind sharing why you are asking this question. Is it an issue in your life right now? Are you wondering how to discern God's will in your situation?
Diane
I actually sent you an email but I'm banging my head against the wall thinking about the worst right now. Can God's choice/decision/blessing be a disapointment?
Hi brother,
Have you listened to Keith Daniel's table talk discussion with young people:
https://www.sermonindex.net/modules/mydownloads/singlefile.php?lid=17989&commentView=itemComments
I thought it contained some very helpful advice for young people in the area of courtship and marriage.
Have you ever heard of a situation where God led a man to be with a woman he has absolutely no interest, attraction, or care for?
Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
I am certain many a disappointment has turned into a blessing. Could it be your perspective that is turned around?
Go slow, wait and see what comes.
Kind regards,
white stone
Brother,
First off bro, stop listening to voices in your head.
Secondly,
God gives you the desires of you heart. I say this emphatically, God would not lead you to marry a woman that you do not desire to be with.
If you don't mind I am going to pm you and share with you my own story of how I met my wife....
Santana... were you not on here a couple weeks ago asking our advice about whether or not to marry a certain girl? If that was you, and you're now asking this question... my advice to you is [b]stop
Whats the worst that can happen if you dont get married right now? You pay more taxes?
Save this girl a lot of potential heartache and put getting married on the back burner. Devote yourself and your time study and prayer. Go on a missions trip. Scoop out soup at soup line somewhere.
But dont get married if you're this conflicted in your soul.
I will not advise anyone on this forum to get married, but I will certainly advise against it if it seems prudent to do so.
On the last thread you started about this someone came on and told you to just charge right into getting married... ignore the advise you were getting... and "trust God". Well, I told you just the opposite then, and I am saying it again, my brother. I do agree with the "trust God" part, but what this other dude was telling you to do was "trust your heart", not God. And the heart is desperately wicked.
Trust the Lord by waiting on Him to give you peace about this, one way or another.
Krispy
hi Santana just wanted to say i agree with Krispy if ur nt sure of this person then dont take that big step of getting married meet people and get know them first before thinking of marriage perhaps god is sending you a message, do you mind me asking hw long u been with this person?
I'm with those who caution you against moving forward with this relationship. I strongly advise PRUDENCE. My counsel, based upon God's Word:
Exercise prudence:
"I, wisdom, dwell with prudence, and I find knowledge and discretion." Proverbs 8:12
God's word tells us that wisdom dwells with prudence; they are interrelated:
Prudence: 1.the ability to govern and discipline oneself by the use of reason; 2.caution or circumspection as to danger or risk
This verse shows us that wisdom finds (inferring a search) both knowledge and discretion. You will be given a generous portion of wisdom if you request it of God in faith with right motives.
Wisdom: SOPHIA: insight into the true nature of things
Pray for wisdom, Brother, and do it in faith. (James 1:5-6) Also, read James 3:13-18.
God's Word is truth. Keep searching the Scriptures. Test every spirit and every voice in the light of God's Word. I will pray for you.
well, i've read your posts on this in a couple threads, and i thought i would post in here, being a girl and all...look, it has to be God. i agree with all these who say NOT to do this if it isn't God. if it really is God telling you to marry her, He will make it clear. proverbs 31 warns men about attraction being a factor though: charm is deceitful, and beauty is meaningless, but the woman who fears the Lord, she is to be praised. the right woman will be a true warrior of Christ, a battle partner for you to come alongside you and serve you. (that is also in proverbs 31, usually translated "excellent" or "virtuous") maybe she'll be beautiful, maybe she won't. but that is really irrelevant, as all that fades anyways. who is she in Christ? does she love the Lord with all her heart, all her soul, all her strength? is she going to serve you as a way to serve her God? i encourage you (and all single men) to listen to denny kenaston's hidden woman sermon and find a woman like that and marry her. don't settle for anything less than God's design. but whether you are attracted to her or not simply doesn't matter. whoever He tells you to marry, (when He is really telling you and not your heart, krispy nailed that one right on the head) she will not be a disappointment, she will be your called bride and blessing from God Himself. obedience is always a blessing in some and often many forms. recall ruth and boaz. the Word does not tell us ruth was pretty, and we know that boaz was older, and that he commented at her affection for him versus someone younger (i.e. more attractive). but God blessed and honored them; they saw Christ in one another.
be sure, DO NOT rush into any marriage. this is your biggest ministry for the whole rest of your life. when it's of Him, He'll let you know. He is always faithful.
plus, seems to me you may not be ready for this in general; marriage is about serving Christ by serving the other person. have you considered her through this? maybe you did and just didn't post about it. i'd encourage you to give it some thought. i don't say that to be mean, but rather as an observation.
:-)
best to you, friend.
sorry, please afford me one other quick thought, from a woman's heart. being a woman in a marriage where the man doesn't love you, thinks you're ugly, just married you grudgingly because of whatever reason...is torture. i have a friend in this very scenario right now and she is miserable. also, i personally have been the girl who was too ugly to marry. i beg you, please, please don't do that to this girl. put her out of her misery, cut her loose, you'll both be better for it. treat your neighbor as yourself. how would you feel if a woman married you and didn't want to, if you knew she thought you were ugly and didn't want to be with you (and somewhere deep down, this girl knows that is how you feel about her, whether or not she will admit it)? it would hurt you terribly all the days of your marriage, knowing she felt forced into it. please have compassion for this girl and don't marry her with this heart. unless God changes your heart to commit joyfully to love her and lay down your life for her, do not disrespect the marriage covenant in this way and also destroy a woman. i plead with you from a God-loving woman's perspecitve.
please take my words with love for you and for her. :-)
did u fix ur problem r currently single :-D
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