Brother Ben I appreciate your humble attitude and I too wish to "write" this in the same spirit.
Before I start, I wanted to say that I think if you took the time to listen to Mark Driscoll, you'd find that he too desires that Christians would walk differently than the world and he would echo your sentiments for holiness.
Too many read things they see on the net and then believe it before finding out for themselves(I have done this in the past so I speak from experience).
Now onto 1 Corinthians 10:13 :-)
It is interesting that there are two Greek words used for "temptation" and "tempted" in this verse.
The word for "temptation" is "peirasmos" which according to Thayer's Greek Lexicon means-
Thayer Definition:
1) an experiment, attempt, trial, proving
1a) trial, proving: the trial made of you by my bodily condition, since condition served as to test the love of the Galatians toward Paul (Gal_4:14)
1b) the trial of man’s fidelity, integrity, virtue, constancy
1b1) an enticement to sin, temptation, whether arising from the desires or from the outward circumstances
1b2) an internal temptation to sin
1b2a) of the temptation by which the devil sought to divert Jesus the Messiah from his divine errand
1b3) of the condition of things, or a mental state, by which we are enticed to sin, or to a lapse from the faith and holiness
1b4) adversity, affliction, trouble: sent by God and serving to test or prove one’s character, faith, holiness
1c) temptation (i.e. trial) of God by men
1c1) rebellion against God, by which his power and justice are, as it were, put to the proof and challenged to show themselves
Now the word for "tempted" is "peirazō", same root but different in meaning.
According to Thayer's this means-
Thayer Definition:
1) to try whether a thing can be done
1a) to attempt, endeavour
2) to try, make trial of, test: for the purpose of ascertaining his quantity, or what he thinks, or how he will behave himself
2a) in a good sense
2b) in a bad sense, to test one maliciously, craftily to put to the proof his feelings or judgments
2c) to try or test one’s faith, virtue, character, by enticement to sin
2c1) to solicit to sin, to tempt
2c1a) of the temptations of the devil
2d) after the OT usage
2d1) of God: to inflict evils upon one in order to prove his character and the steadfastness of his faith
2d2) men are said to tempt God by exhibitions of distrust, as though they wished to try whether he is not justly distrusted
2d3) by impious or wicked conduct to test God’s justice and patience, and to challenge him, as it were to give proof of his perfections.
I believe the idea here is that God will test our faithfulness in our trials which all men go through. What will the testing of our faith produce?
Will it be idolatry like those mentioned before this exhortation, or will it produce a deeper faith?
I suppose the idea is that God may put us in the fire, but never let it subdue us, but it will be His power and His glory that are what is displayed in the "way out" or "deliverance". Maybe this is what you're getting at.
I just don't buy the idea that God doesn't put us in trials that we can't handle. Scripture doesn't really support this as many people in the Bible were in situations that were too much for them and their need of God's power to deliver was made manifest by that.