More women lured to pornography addiction

My younger sister read a lot of "Christian" romance novels as a girl. This struck me as a type pornagraphy for women and it was not until I read this article that I got any confirmation of that.

Have any of the sisters here been set free from that? I have brought this up to her but she has denied it. I could use some insight for the next time the Lord opens the door to confront this.

It is one of the last taboos in our culture, I believe, and I am grateful that one of our female leaders in church has had the courage to bring it up in a meeting. It turned out that indeed from a group of perhaps 14-16 women, almost half confessed to struggling with this. They were the youngest ones in the group, but we did not go into specifics, like asking about internet use. If you have specific questions, Jeremy, I may be able to answer them from my personal experience if I feel comfortable enough with it, and hopefully for the edification of other women before they make these mistakes.

does she still read these novels? Does she see it as sin whatsoever?

Jeremy221: Have any of the sisters here been set free from that? I have brought this up to her but she has denied it. I could use some insight for the next time the Lord opens the door to confront this.

Bro Jeremy,

About your sister (and to any man whose wife may read christian romance novels); confronting them (however you confront), probably won't do the trick. You will have to attack this in your private prayer closet and allow the Holy Spirit to start working on her and showing her where these books are wrong because it's not just the ever so soft porn that has to be addressed (imho).

I know in your man's heart, you just want to instruct her not to read this stuff and she should obey; God bless ya if that actually happens!!

"This kind cometh out only by fasting and by prayer!" Until the Lord convicts us, we can do things in secret and in our mind and still look lovingly obedient on the outside!

Pray faithfully and allow the Lord time to convict her and this will take patience and love on your part to wait on the Lord while she might continue to seemingly buy book after book!! But DO trust in the Lord to do what is best for her and I promise you that He will!

God bless you!

About your sister (and to any man whose wife may read christian romance novels); confronting them (however you confront), probably won't do the trick. You will have to attack this in your private prayer closet and allow the Holy Spirit to start working on her and showing her where these books are wrong because it's not just the ever so soft porn that has to be addressed (imho).

:) I know this advise to be true, my mom reads these kind of books sometimes, and then my dad would tell her to stop reading them didn't seem to help infact just pushed my mom further away. I talked to my mom about it and why she read them, she told me she just really likes reading so I gave her some good Christian books that are in story form and just great wholesome reading.

My dad being the Zealot that he is told her she needs to read Pilgrim's Progress, my mom tried and didn't understand it, so instead of misunderstanding the entire book she stopped reading the book because it didn't make sense to her. I told her I could sit down and explain to her, she seemed open to that. My mom has a good heart but is going through a desert right now spiritually because my dad's zeal has rubbed and pushed her there because his zeal like the Pharisees came off as critical and very harsh. She is coming around though and I hope that she enjoys the two books I let her borrow.

God Bless,
Matthew

Is it possible to go to Heaven and be addicted to pornography. If someone watches porn and then asks Jesus to forgive them and does this all of their life will they be allowed access into the Kingdom of Heaven.

If you really want to talk about this and seriously want an answer to that question, we could cover in ten minutes over the phone what would take hours of typing on a forum. I would avail myself to wrestle through this issue with you via the phone, I would 100% protect your anonymity, and believe me I am nothing but compassionate to your question.

However I will say that your problem is real, however your question is wrong. No one ever asked in scripture how much they could sin and still get to heaven. The only one who got close to asking such a question was floored by Christ's response, and left staggering.

You should be asking, How can Christ free me from a sin He hates so absolutely. A sin that separated Him from His Father, a sin that pierced his Spirit through and through deeper and more penetratingly than a rusty nail ever could have...

You can PM me if you are able to communicate via phone in the US. If not, I will be praying and interceding for you.

I really appreciate your heartfelt responce Areadymind. We need more bretheren like yourself ready to help their betheren. Yet I do not have the issue I raised. I believe there are many who believe they can be hooked to pornography or adultery and still make it to Heaven as long as they keep asking Jesus to forgive them. I just wanted to see what was the concensus in this community as it relates to that question.

Well Praise Jesus then Questione...I guess then that my answer tells you how at least I feel about it!!! Welcome to SI by the way :)

Questione,

I do not even know if you are male or female. So let me encourage you with what has helped me and was given to me by the Lord... Years ago the Lord showed me that things done in the dark doesn't hold as much power over you if you confess them to the LIGHT! So began the wildest journey of my Christian walk!!

In my car or when I knew I was good and alone, through tears and total humilation and embarrassment (even though no one was around), I began to describe outloud to the Lord what was in my mind and going on in my thoughts. (Your wife or husband does NOT need to hear it, it will only hinder them; God is the only one who can help us with this kind of stuff and He is there to listen and to help).

Yes, God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit know our very thoughts but we still need to confess them. We are too even bring them under obedience but since I didn't know how to do that except to bring them to Him and lay them out before Him and say, "Here is what I've been hiding from you all these years. Here is every last thought, Lord." I'll be honest, I was humilated beyond measure to give voice to what I kept hidden for years and do you know what? It began to not have the power or attraction that it did in the dark!

It will eventually take all the wind out of the devil's sails. It was a process and I still have to tattle on the devil at times! Praise God! I write this out of a humble heart and hope this might help you or someone else because I give God ALL the praise for what He has done for me... like the song, "It is no secret what God can do. What's He's done for other's, He'll do for you!!"

There is hope, bro or sis, do not give up - He is FOR you and not against you!

God bless,
Lisa

Ok, I bore my heart for no reason I read now!! LOLOL That is ok... the truth is in the light. I can only pray that it might make sense to someone who needs it out there. To God be all the glory!

God bless you,
Lisa

The Lord who is your Lord moves and has His being in you. So you sharing your heart was not for no reason. I thank you for being willing to share these things. It is indeed encouraging.

I will say that I at one time believed that I had the luxury of struggling with pornography. I believe I was decieved in thinking that I could go on 'stuggling' with that sin while seeing the Blood of Jesus like tap water that I could just plead over my sins. Somehow I felt God would understand my stuggle and let me into Heaven if I died in that state. I had a terrifying dream that obliterated that deception.

I did painfully confess my sin to the fellowship the Lord had joined me to and began to aggresively give myself to those activities in God that make freedom possible. I remember when I went to a navy base pool and for the 1st time in my entire life I did not sin with my eyes. I found an astounding stength and fortitude that had alluded me all my life in the Kingdom which is over 2 decades. I have found the Grace in the Divinely powered weapons that God has given to His people that brings freedom from strongholds that are decades old. And the only gaurantee that that freedom will remain is my daily decision to engage God and put my body in subjection like Paul encouraged.

When Paul said fight,labor and wrestle and Jesus sais strive they meant it. If we dont do those things we will be ravaged by the flesh and ultimately disqaulified. Thanks again Lysa.