Dear Ronald,
I have some thoughts I'd like to share. Please be patient. I think this may be a longish post, and you don't need to reply to it. I would ask, though, that you let the scriptures I've quoted, sink deep down into your ears.
(EDIT: To clarify: in the following by 'New Testament' I mean the books of.)
Regarding 'law' in the lives of Christians, are you forgetting, perhaps, that when Jesus Christ came, there was no New Testament? And that 'the new testament in His blood' is fully intended to bring the knowledge of God into the HEARTS of His people, in a personal way. Again let me quote Hebrews 8:
10 For this [is] the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people: 11 And they shall not teach every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for all shall know me, from the least to the greatest. 12 For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.
Jesus Himself began His ministry with the word 'REPENT', (Mark 1), which is exactly what John the Baptist had been saying, being the last prophet to Israel under the Old Covenant.
Baptism for Jews was a new introduction to their faith, and what's more, the power of God was sooo in John Baptist's preaching, that people came to be baptised - to wash away their sins (Acts 22:16) and to ask what they could do to 'Bring forth therefore fruits worthy of repentance,' John adds, 'and begin not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to [our] father: for I say unto you, That God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham.' (Luke 3:8)
Interesting, the emphasis is on a disowning of their fleshly inheritance through Abraham, despite the promises that one would be born of David's line (tribe of Judah) to deliver them. May you have disregarded the emphasis in the Old Testament in respect of God's mourning over sin, and His desire that His people also, should mourn over their sins, and the inevitable death to which sin leads?
These themes are not absent from the New Testament, so it is amazing you don't take Christ's fulfilment of the law as seriously as He did, when He actually died for us - not so that we could continue to sin (thereby rejecting His offer of salvation), but so that we could enter into His death (to make a genuine spiritual end of sin on an individual basis), and, on an individual basis, be raised to a NEW life.
This is the substance of Romans 5 - 8. But 'freely give us all things' has nothing to do with sin. Peter expresses it this way: to them that have obtained like precious faith with us through the righteousness of God and our Saviour Jesus Christ: 2 Grace and peace be multiplied unto you through the knowledge of God, and of Jesus our Lord, 3 According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that [pertain] unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue: 4 Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust. (2 Pet 1)
Both in Acts 3 (Peter speaking), and in Acts 13 (Paul speaking), both of whom refer to the prophets and the law (the covenant), and the need to hear 'that Prophet' of whom Moses spoke (Christ) there is no doubt that forgiveness of the sins defined in the OLD Testament, is the heart of the gospel. Nothing which Jesus said, in any way contradicted the spirit of the law in its intention to inform us about God's utter holiness, purity, and uncreated glory.
Note: Peter quotes Moses in full: 22 For Moses truly said unto the fathers, A prophet shall the Lord your God raise up unto you of your brethren, like unto me; him shall ye hear in all things whatsoever he shall say unto you. 23 And it shall come to pass, [that] every soul, which will not hear that prophet, SHALL BE DESTROYED from among the people.
He goes on: 24 Yea, and all the prophets from Samuel and those that follow after, as many as have spoken, have likewise foretold of these days. 25 Ye are the children of the prophets, and of the covenant which God made with our fathers, saying unto Abraham, And in thy seed shall all the kindreds of the earth be blessed. 26 Unto you first God, having raised up his Son Jesus, SENT HIM TO BLESS YOU, IN TURNING AWAY EVERYONE OF YOU FROM HIS INIQUITIES. (Acts 3)
That is, those iniquities preached against all through the OLD Testament.
There is nothing wrong with a ministry to homosexuals, but any ministry depends upon the power of God by His Holy Spirit, to deal with the spiritual side of all sin.
Whether you preach healing first, or repentance, those who come to God by Jesus Christ, must acknowledge that He is, and they must expect to be recreated, And [to] have put on the new [man], which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him. ( Col 3:10)
There is no logic (or fairness to the hearers) to the message of salvation if they cannot be delivered from ALL sin. The extremity - Christ dying on a cross, the blood of the Lamb of God - is essential for some unbelievers to begin only to hope they might be able to be saved some day. For, if Christ cannot save to the uttermost, there is no hope for THEM. That's how their situation appears to them from inside their hearts and minds and bodies.
Can you see that? Or, at least, please receive it from me, as this is part of my testimony.
Moving on, I noticed in a post you said this: 'I have dealt with the so-called "Slam Passages" (Leviticus 18:22 & 20:13, Romans 1:18-32, etc.) to my own satisfaction.'
Doesn't it bother you that your 'own satisfaction' may not satisfy God? He is looking for those who are willing to adopt His entire pattern of thought over every matter He has disclosed to us, through the scriptures.
Even calling some of His word 'Slam Passages', indicates you have adopted the thinking of those with whom you associate, rather than being one who shares HIS mind, with them, as Paul entreats at the end of 2 Cor 5, (which would include all of GOD's definition of sin).
Returning to the relationship Christians should have with 'the law', here is one poem by Charles Wesley, which addresses it in some fulness:
'Tis finished! The Messiah dies,
Cut off for sins, but not His own:
Accomplished is the sacrifice,
The great redeeming work is done.
'Tis finished! all the debt is paid;
Justice divine is satisfied;
The grand and full atonement made;
God for a guilty world hath died.
The veil is rent in Christ alone;
The living way to heaven is seen;
The middle wall is broken down,
And all mankind may enter in.
The types and figures are fulfilled;
Exacted is the legal pain;
The precious promises are sealed;
The spotless Lamb of God is slain.
The reign of sin and death is o'er,
And all may live from sin set free;
Satan hath lost his mortal power;
'Tis swallowed up in victory.
Saved from the legal curse I am,
My Savior hangs on yonder tree:
See there the meek, expiring Lamb!
'Tis finished! He expires for me.
Accepted in the Well-beloved,
And clothed in righteousness divine,
I see the bar to heaven removed;
And all Thy merits, Lord, are mine.
Death, hell, and sin are now subdued;
All grace is now to sinners given;
And lo, I plead the atoning blood,
And in Thy right I claim Thy heaven!
As Paul asks: Romans 6:1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? 2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? 3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death? 4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death:
(Please pause here. Think about this. There is no God-given right to a sexual relationship of any kind, when one is dead. 24 And Jesus answering said unto them, Do ye not therefore err, because ye know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? 25 For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven. (Mark 12)
Reading other parts of the New Testament, it is clear that even born again Christians may, or may not, marry, depending on the outworking of God's calling on their lives. (Matt 19:12, 1 Cor 7:1, 2, 39, 40) God does not give a choice to a man, to 'marry' a woman OR a man. That's because 'to avoid fornication', in the New Testament, includes avoiding homosexual liaisons. There are more than a dozen other places in the New Testament, where fornication is named as 'sin'.)
As Paul continues from Rom 6 above: (therefore)
that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.
5 For IF we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also [in the likeness] of [his] resurrection: 6 Knowing this, that our OLD man is crucified with [him], that the body of sin might be DESTROYED, that henceforth we should NOT SERVE sin. (Rom 6)
Matt 7:20 Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven... 23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. 24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26 And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: 27 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it. 28 And it came to pass, when Jesus had ended these sayings, the people were astonished at his doctrine:
24 God [is] a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship [him] in spirit and in truth. 25 The woman saith unto him, I know that Messias cometh, which is called Christ: when he is come, he will tell us all things. 26 Jesus saith unto her, I that speak unto thee am [he]. (John 4)