Brothers and Sisters,
Jonathan Edwards wrote a beautiful sermon on love and its fruits which you can access here:
http://www.chapellibrary.org/pdf-english/caif.pdf
The sermon contains some very profound discussion of the opposite of a charitable Christian, ie., one who is selfish, or proud, or angry or censorius ( great word for judgmental ). Each of us may have at various times one of these spirits that we need to acknowledge and deal with. I honestly found a lot of myself on the convicted side of this discussion ( in how I live at church and at home ) and know there may be more like me on this forum who in the interest of being right were actually much wrong. Hope you "enjoy" it if you can spare the time to read it. It is informative and transformative.