LORD Bless you sister rdg.
Watchman Nee's "The Release of the Spirit" has had to have it's Introduction extended/added-to to clarify that it's not the "annihilation of" the soul that was being taught but that all of our souls/selves are "stubbornly independent". Our wills need to become yielded - then it can be a "functioning 'channel' through which the Spirit of life seeks to flow out" of.
It's all about "dependence" - that waiting on His Spirit to direct, guide, lead, in all that you mentioned - Amen.
All the fulness of The Godhead dwelt in Christ Jesus bodily, yet we see Him stopping & looking up to pray - for an example unto us, of how to walk in dependence, rather than autonomously, as we as humans do naturally.
There are some beliefs of Nee that we don't all agree with - such as 5 raptures and some of what he wrote on 'authority' but The Spiritual Man, The Release of the Spirit, and The Ministry of God's Word - just for 3, are more than worth their weight in pure fine gold. Nee has kept many from going off the deep end with "The Latent Power of the Soul" and "Spiritual Reality or Obsession".
His teaching on the "spirit, soul & body" - the tripartite make-up of humans, is a GOD send to The Church because through it, we can understand The Trinity.
His Spirit indwells our Spirit upon regeneration, then the freewill that makes up our soul, which controls our bodies as well, decides whether to stop and wait for the leading of the Spirit - "to walk in the spirit" or not.
When we do walk in the spirit - then the soul is submissive to His Spirit and the body is controled by the freewill of the soul, under submission to The Spirit. (How Jesus walked)
Then our tripartite nature is "one" as Jesus and the Father were One - as He said while He was here in flesh.
'Pray without ceasing' sums it up and that's what you've said in your first two paragraphs. I truly appreciate your post. We all need that reminder - to take up that cross daily - of submission/dependence. Amen & Thank you Sis.