I had a dream...

Can someone help me? I`m in middle school and think I had a dream that I think is from God, but I`m not sure. I was strugling with school (math, attitude, friendships, etc.) and had the dream. Last year I got into a fight with one of my best friends(Terrell)and he said he`d pray for me and that God will help and I said God better act fast. So this year, when I was strugling, me and an aquaintence started talking and became friends. He brought me closer to God and inspried me to pray more and be more of an example of christ than I was. So one night I went to sleep and dreamed this:

Me and the friend (his name is Wesley) were in a field with my parents. Wesley was standing and talking with my parents across the field. I ran over and stood beside Wesley and he grabbed my hand. I pulled away because my parents (specifically my dad) are VERY strict about dating, but he gently pulled me beside him and held me there. By then I was terrified my dad would get angry but he started smiling like he was happy we were together, and I realized I liked Wesley as more than a friend.

That`s the dream. I had another dream a few nights ago when I was thinking of ways to tell him:

Terrell and Wesley (they`re best friends) were sitting next to eachother and I walked up and gave Wesley a note. I walked away and the dream ended.

I woke up the next morning and did that exact thing the exact day. I don`t know whether it`s God or I`m phycic or what but I have to know before I do anything else. Please help me!

-Thanks!

Christskid

You mentioned that you are in middle school so I think the best thing for you to do would be to go to your mother and father and share your thoughts with them. Speak with them about these feelings you are having for this boy and ask for their guidance. I am sure that both your parents love and care for you very much and would be best suited to give you guidance in this area of your life, much better suited then a stranger on a forum would.

Also I wonder do you own a Bible? If you do then please take this time in your life to spend with the LORD, make getting to know JESUS your highest priority.

God Bless
maryjane

If you are having homosexual feelings for this friend that is not a good thing and could destroy the friendship, or lead to sinful behavior and it's consequences (i.e STDs, HIV, sexual bondage, etc). The dream may be satan tempting you into homosexual sin or it may simply be a subliminal manifestation of feelings you suppress during the day or yes it may even be God trying to tell you something. What you should do is pray about it, and you should also renounce out loud the homosexual desires contained in the dream; resist the devil and he will flee from you, draw nigh to God and He will draw nigh to you. Dreams of a hetero and homosexual nature are actually quite common but the important thing is not to indulge them.

I thought that the original poster was a girl from the way the post was written?? Is that not the case? I still believe you need to go to your parents with this situation.

God Bless
mj

Oh! Lol. Hmm. I dont know where i got the impression the poster was male. Oooops! Probably because our culture is so infested with it(homosex), even in the churches, and the fact that she said the (first) friend was her "best" friend. Although i know it is possible for middle school girls to have boys who are their BEST friends, i am more acquainted with girls at that age having girls for their best friends, and boys as more casual friends.

That aside, i guess it all depends on the parents. Some parents can talk to their kids, others can't. And vice versa. In some cases it might only make the situation worse. I never could talk to my parents about anything so am not one to suggest that. Like once when i was 12 i knew that a friend's father was sexually abusing my friend's little brother but i knew what my parent's response would be and that i could not turn to them for anything so i never was able to tell anyone. Tragic, cuz the kid was becoming a basket case. Even when her father tried to molest me also i had to handle it myself (i was a tough kid, thank God).

Anyway, if the poster is female that changes things a bit. I suspect the 2nd dream is merely a reflection of her desire to tell Wesley how she really feels about him, hence the part where she handed him the note and walked away. But i could be wrong; so much with dreams can also depend on the tone and feelings inspired in the dream.

Good advice, Endzone.

From your post, I can not tell whether you are a boy or a girl.

By all means follow your heart and become close friends with these two fine Christian lads. True friends are a great blessing for many years to come. And the best way to have friends is to be a friend.

"A friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love, and encourages you with hope."

"Friends always show their love. What are brothers for if not to share troubles?"- Proverbs 17:17

"Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers."
- Proverbs 18:24

"An honest answer is the sign of true friendship."
- Proverbs 24:26

"A friend means well, even when he hurts you. But when an enemy puts his hand round your shoulder - watch out!"
- Proverbs 27:6

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."
- Bible: Ecclesiastes -
We all need to be picked up every once in a while.

"The greatest love a person can have for his friends is to give his life for them."
- John 15:13

"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses."
- Proverbs 27:19

"A friend loveth at all times."
- Proverbs 17:17

"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens his friend's countenance."
-Proverbs 27:1

"Friends are friends forever, if the Lord is the Lord of them
And a friend will not say never, cause the welcome will not end
Though it's hard to let you go
In the Father's hands I know
That a lifetime's not too long... to live as friends."
-Michael W Smith

By all means, become close friends, may your hearts ever be joined together.

Brother Art, what I believe the original poster is asking is if they should become more than friends ie moving their relationship into a more dating like setting.

I am far from dissappointed in the advise given as middle school is not a time to date but to learn and as MaryJane suggested grow closer to God, not boys.

by mguldner on 2011/9/29 22:54:40

"Brother Art, what I believe the original poster is asking is if they should become more than friends ie moving their relationship into a more dating like setting.

I am far from dissappointed in the advise given as middle school is not a time to date but to learn and as MaryJane suggested grow closer to God, not boys."

As I re-read the other posts, I recognized the concerns, and edited my post to reflect that. But I did not take anything the original poster made as being of a sexual nature. The value of a true heart to heart FRIENDSHIP, is enormous. I was thinking of Christian bonding, which would be excellent at that age. I realize that a sexual relationship would be a disaster, leading to much pain and suffering by all involved. When I wrote friendship, I meant friendship. That would be rewarding for years to come, and even over a lifetime.

And if the latter is what the poster meant, then I suggest the poster is someone (probably an adult) trying to play with our minds and the values we have in Christ Jesus.

Amen! I agree wholeheartedly Friendship is so very important especially at the trying times of middle school and into High school. :)

I have found very few friends of the years but the ones I have are the best ones I know and I value and treasure them dearly.

Jesus-is-God, if someone is going to sue anyone on here or this website for advising a kid to "pray about it" well then bring it on. I think you are being a bit extreme.

I wish I could, but my mom is the principal of the middle school I go to, and my dad doesn`t know how to handle me and starts yelling and freaking out. My mom would just say okay and not care. She has an entire school of kids to worry about, and I`m not allowed to act up in any way (which isn`rt a problem, but it makes me feel like I have to be perfect). I`m in all advanced classes, and focus almost compleatly on schoolwork. I`m scared of my dad`s over reactions. He never hurts me, but it`s terrifying when he yells, and he`s trying to stop chewing tobacco so he`s really moody.

No, but I often dream of things that end up happening in the future. Like I would have a dream when I was three, and it would happen in second grade and I would say "Hey, I dreamed this!". Only certain dreams I can remember once I wake up, though, and it`s kinda uncontrolable. That`s why I wasn`t so sure whether this was real or not.

Honestly, At our age,(I'm a friend from school) We're to young to even think about these kinda things. Usually when you dream something, and something similar happens, you just relate it. This could all be you longing to be closer friends with him.

I am a girl. Wholeheartedly, a girl. Not an adult, but just a girl trying to get some opinions from my fellow believers in Christ. No tricks. If I need to, I`ll happily post a picture. I`ll give my name and school, if necisary...

by Christskid:
I am a girl. Wholeheartedly, a girl. Not an adult, but just a girl trying to get some opinions from my fellow believers in Christ. No tricks. If I need to, I`ll happily post a picture. I`ll give my name and school, if necisary...

God bless you,
Lisa

True. It`s just... I live this entire life that I feel that my parents don`t even know about. I don`t want them to know. When I was in 2nd grade, something scarring happened that my parents have no clue about. I still have nightmares inspired by this occurence from time to time. Kidofchrist knows about it because she`s one of my best friends. She`s like a sister. And while I am this kid at school who looks secure, I`m like anyone else in this world who has dark secrets and has never, NEVER been able to be me. I hid it every day, and it hurts. I`m not all that people want me to be, which is okay because really, who is? But when I spend five years crying myself to sleep and wondering what would happen if, it seems unimportaint. Terrell and another friend (Erica) are likely the only reason I`m alive. I have serious issues. I think of the best way to kill myself, and how much my family would hurt. I think of all the things wrong with me. How I`m not pretty. How I`m overweight. How, of all the things in the world, I`m truely not good at anything. My writing is all the voice I have. But when Terrell and Erica and Wesley introduced me to God. The real, uncensored, straight from the bible God, I was captivated. I couldn`t get enough. I can`t get enough. I was to the point that if my parents said "we`re not going to church" I replied "Well, I`ld better find my bike helmet!" I still can`t be myself. And I`m lost. I`ve heard stories of people where middle school is make or break and only so many make the cut. It terrifies me. I couldn`t make it if I tried. And I have. Always. But the outcome is always the same.