Hey,
Sorry it's taken a day or two to reply, but I'll try to do my best to answer the questions here.
Just as a bit of a header, my name is Grant, I'm 26 (I think :P), and I've been working in Japan as a missionary for a little over two years so far.
What do you base your success off of?
Interestingly enough, I'm asked this/I think about this on occasion, and there's really only one concrete answer I can come to when considering this:
Simply that there's nothing in this entire world I can base my success off of. The only time I'll ever truly know if I was successful in the task I was given is when I receive it directly from the Lord's mouth on judgement day.
I have to live, work, and strive every day in the firm belief that I'm doing exactly what Christ called me to do in following Him. If I start looking around to see sorts of "proofs" as my barometer for success it will only be to my ruin, as it has been to countless other missionaries before me in this country. In many circles Japan is nicknamed the "missionaries' graveyard" as many seasoned missionaries with good intentions came to this country also looking for results, and were absolutely staggered at the rocky hearts of the people, and eventually threw in the towel when they didn't receive the results that they were expecting/accustomed to.
If my sight is set on anything else than to fulfill the command of Christ and spread His Gospel, I've already started on the wrong foot, and can only expect failure and disappointment.
To work here, or on any mission field, I/we have to take to heart the men of Hebrews 11, and be willing to share in the lot of such men.
Hebrews 11:13
All these died in faith, WITHOUT RECEIVING THE PROMISES, but having seen them and having welcomed them from a distance, and having confessed that they were strangers and exiles on the earth. (emphasis added)
Expecting anything else, will only lead to frustration, doubt, bitterness, and questioning.
What challenges have you faced in the field?
One thing that's been a bit of a tough pill to swallow is the fact that from the very get go, the Japanese people will make it abundantly clear that as a foreigner, you are irreconcilably different than they are, but beyond that, you will never fully understand them or have any idea of what it feels like to "be Japanese", thus whatever you say to them has to be viewed through the lens of some "unknowing outsider" giving his irrelevant advice on something. This mindset permeates every part of the culture, and will even seep into the church.
However, there is quite a noticeable difference between Japanese people who've lived in Japan their whole life, vs. the ones who have lived in another country for a year or two. It's like their eyes are opened and they realize that there's this world outside of Japan that cares nothing about how the Japanese think things should be done, and there are other ways to think than they way they've been told to see things. Free thinking is not encouraged in Japan, and is viewed with skepticism. The most honest Japanese will admit this, and as strange as it sounds, some are even proud of this fact.
So when something new is presented to an individual, you must understand that it's not being presented to just one, but to the opinion of the entire country. They view ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING through the eyes of what their fellow Japanese people might think. They even have a phrase for their own people "the culture of shame" meant to describe how detrimental it would be to possibly be the one who dares do something different than everyone else. Everyone here is well aware of the old Japanese proverb, "The nail that sticks out shall be hammered down."
Another great difficulty when trying to open up doors and relate to/understand people, is the concept I guess that Japanese people can hold two completely polar opposite views at the same time, and somehow be OK with this. It's a country that redefines relativism, and makes the concept of something being completely true an alien way of thinking. There are no truths here, there are only ways of doing things.
At the same time one must accept that the way something has always been done by the Japanese, is clearly the best way of doing it, for no other reason than that it's always been done that way. Thus you must not do anything different than the way it has always been done, for this is truly the right way to do it.
If you're already scratching your head about how there are no absolutes about anything, yet there is a right way of doing something that is completely closed to interpretation, then you've just took your first step onto the foothill of the mountain of confusion that is the Japanese mindset.
And if you ever decide to ask anyone how these two concepts can coincide and be believed at the same time (which I have on a few occasions), you'll simply be treated to the aforementioned, "You're not Japanese and thus could not possibly understand the Japanese mind."
As basic as this may sound, this is a major hurdle, and one of the crowning features that makes it so difficult to work here. Christ is not the way things have always been done here, thus must be rejected from the start because it is not the native religion of Japan (most Japanese refer to themselves as Buddhists, which like Christianity, does not find its origins in Japan) yet practice a religion that is not indigenous to Japan either.
Romans 1:22-23
Professing to be wise, they became fools,and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.
What about your children? How have they adjusted to the lifestyle of being a missionaries child? What about schooling them?
I'm unmarried, so I can't comment about this personally. I do know a few missionary kids around my city though, and some find it difficult especially in Japan because they're raised as what's referred to as "third culture kids". The Japanese do not except them as being like them because they're foreign, yet Japan is the only country they know, thus they do not fit into their home country either, and find it extremely difficult to find a place where they truly fit in outside of their own household. Many of them feel very alone here.
How have you comforted your family from afar if you have been called away from home?
Because I live in a technologically advanced culture, it's not very difficult to keep in touch with my family via the internet. My parents were very happy about my decision to work in missions, thus they don't really feel that I've just gone off or left or anything of that nature, so I haven't had to comfort them much, or anything along those lines.
What someone (particularly the world) would call a necessity in life (owning your own home, the American dream, etc.), how are you content to live without those things?
The standard of living in Japan is about the same as in America, so I can't say there was a large transition for me personally. I live by myself in an apartment, and have the internet and a phone for communication. Japan doesn't use insulation, so that can be challenging at times,(especially in winter and summer:P) but apart from that I don't mind that I don't own my own home, or make much money or anything like that. I was blessed to be able to buy a smaller motorcycle to get around with (as owning a car, plus a parking spot, plus the money to pay the bi-annual tax needed to own a car is financially impossible), so it makes transportation quite a bit easier here, especially since it's just me. I don't have much money, but compared to others I could never call myself poor. I'm highly content with what God has provided for me.
What organization did you go through?
I actually didn't come with an organization. The way I got here is a very long story (which I might have posted forever ago on here, though I honestly can't remember), but basically a Japanese pastor needed a missionary to work with, and I got in touch with him and he asked if I could come out and work with them and their church, so that's what I've been doing. In all honesty though, as much of a blessing as sending organizations can be;
1. If God wants you to do work in a country it doesn't matter if you have an official sending organization or not, as He'll get you there.
2. I've seen just as much difficulty arise from being officially under an organization as I've seen blessing come from it (the details would be too long to get into here).
I currently know some missionaries who are trying to set up a girl to come over here as a missionary in a similar style, trying to avoid if possible coming under the umbrella of a sending organization (the one they're under themselves actually) because of all the difficulties that would arise from it.
Did you experience persecution?
Not in the way that believers are experiencing in other parts of Asia. Sometimes I even think the Gospel might flourish under some persecution (not that I want it), as it would give the Japanese a chance to see that Christ is just not a part of western culture that can be abandoned if it became an inconvenience. As grim as it sounds, that might just be what could wake this country up.
Pray for us.
-Grant