While I have benefited from both viewpoints’ understanding of human nature, I tend to side for with the egoism perspective. While I appreciated the sensitivity of such writers like Brennan Manning, I found my true self exposed by the writings of C.S. Lewis. However, the perfect hybrid of both that I’ve found is within the complicated but provocative philosophy of S?Kierkegaard and his Sickness Unto Death.You could always send Mr Cooper a copy of Paris Reidhead? Personally I think this is just another expression of the the spiritual hedonism Paris Reidhead identifies so clearly. (Soren Kierkegaard? yuck!) In one ex-communist countries that I visited, in one church probably almost 50% of the congregation had studied psychology. They were extremely intelligent people; there were two chess grand-masters in the congregation! It became clear that their preoccupation with psychology was really a self-help programme, as they struggled to understand themselves and their reactions.Paul tells us For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. (Rom 12:3 KJV)I can't count the times I have heard preachers improve on Paul by saying 'nor too lowly either'. I prefer Paul, neat.I distrust psychological terms, especially when used to explain biblical phenomena. I distrust, 'self-esteem' profoundly. I have seen proud people being patiently taken apart by the Lord only to be put back together again by the local Christian doctor and his theories of 'self esteem'. I try to force myself to use biblical terms. If there is not an adequate biblical term for this I suspect the 'alternative medicine' of the psychologist.People do need to know that they are loved by God; in whatever condition they are. Not because they are not so bad as they think they are, but because they are much worse than they think they are. The 'psychological experience' of Elijah's poor 'self-image' is instructive;But he himself went a day's journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a juniper tree: and he requested for himself that he might die; and said, It is enough; now, O LORD, take away my life; for I am not better than my fathers. (1Ki 19:4 KJV) Well, Elijah, if you'll excuse me asking, who said that you were? His poor 'self-image' was the result of his having a good 'self-image' and the distress that his disillusionment brought. But if he had not had the 'illusion' (to link to a previous thread) he would not have had to be 'dissed' of it. What we need is the discernment that brings God's diagnosis to the sufferer. The Lord shows a wonderful capacity in drawing near to the down-trodden; which (Sam) is how I regard the woman at the well, rather than a promiscuous woman. Samaritan women, as Jewish women, could not divorce their husbands; this woman had been dumped 5 times. Can you wonder that she didn't bother to go through the motions the 6th time?I suspect that 'low self esteem' is just another disguise that 'pride' is using. It is the result of someone comparing themselves with someone else, rather than listening to God's diagnosis. God never says 'there, there, it's not as bad as you think'; but 'fear not thou worm Jacob'. Instead of trying to improve self image perhaps we should be encouraging people to hear God's 'fear not'. 'You are a worm' but 'fear not'. I don't mind being a worm if I can hear God saying 'fear not'.Just a half-forgotten memory... As a middle teenager I was an avid reader of the Herald of His Coming, which is some ways was a printed precursor of Sermonindex! It often suggested ways of self-humbling. For some months I hung a sign in my bedroom so that the first thing my eyes opened on, to my poor mother's bemused consternation, was "I am a worm". It didn't work; none of it 'works'... but God's word will 'do it' every time...For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. (Heb 4:12 KJV)