New relationship with a female, but.....

So, I just began a relationship with someone, but our friends don't quite support the decision.
She just ended a long term relationship (2 years), and 3 months later, I decided to talk to her. 2 months after we started talking, we decided to pursue a serious relationship and now we're dating (so 5 months after her breakup).

A group of people from our church have began saying things behind our backs (a lot of it not true), I feel distant from our "friends" (maybe because someone likes her), I'm not entirely sure if we need their support or is their support important.

I have approached the guy that I feel distant with, but he says it's nothing.

We have a different set of friends (not of the same church), where we do get support. A lot of other friends support our decision to date.

I suppose my question is, does it matter what they think, are they right, or should I let it pass and let people think what they want...

The question is, are you and her honoring the Lord in ALL of your actions and ways? Are you living like the world, as in, are you in a worldly lustfull relationship with her?

If so, stop now.

Thanks for your response!

To the best of our actions, belief, and faith (may God be our witness and judge us ever so harshly), it is honoring Him, we are keeping his Word, and living according to Him.

Is there a mature, godly person in your church you can consult for advice and perspective? From this distance, and not knowing you as a person, it is difficult to give you good advice. Seems to me you should check out someone who is familiar with you all for insights about your relationship.

God bless..

ginnyrose

Thank you for your response brother. If you are walking in the way that the Lord has established, then the issue is more then likely not yours.

I would talk to an elder at your church, one who fits in the Biblical model of an elder, and see what he has to say.

Be blessed!

I would not be to concerned about what "man" thinks, only what God thinks, I don't answer to man. I use to have a Pastor back in the late 50's and 60's that would tell us this, "You have never been beat up until you have been beat up by a Christian". I know you come here for a direction/advise but as I said most here will give you opinions and a few scriptures but again, keep your relationship in Prayer, and go with what God tells you, that's my advise.

QUOTE: "A group of people from our church have began saying things behind our backs (a lot of it not true),..."=HERO_SKY

Ah, don't ya just love the gutless gossips and backstabbers that exist in every church? If it is fornication or something like that they are accusing you of, they should say it to your face, properly.

Only you can judge what you should do. You could call them on the carpet, call them on their gossip to their faces.
(23 The north wind driveth away rain: so doth an angry countenance a backbiting tongue.PROVERBS 25:23) Then maybe they will be ashamed.

Or you could seek counsel about it from the pastor.
Sometimes (even a lot of times) pastors are IN on the gossip going around a church, but either way, discussing it with him would likely be a help.

If you are living in fornication, then yes, it DOES matter what they think. But you should always still be rebuked openly and spoken to directly. The fact that they are whispering instead of openly confronting you suggests they are only passing around rumors.

By the way, cool username!

Thanks for all the good responses. I just needed some support from other people, and I am getting good wisdom from you all. Her parents (the minister and wife) are supportive of our relationship and have heard everything people are saying. I'm glad I have people like them to support us. It seems as if I am on the right track. As long as I keep walking with God.

No, we are not fornicating. We do not even spend any time alone in a room or at each other's houses. We are careful of what we do because of the mouths of people.

Thank you, all!!

Hero_Sky....No, we are not fornicating. We do not even spend any time alone in a room or at each other's houses. We are careful of what we do because of the mouths of people.

Thank you, all!!

Here is how much I concern myself with what others say about me "O". People talked about Jesus and he was perfect, so why would we as lesser people be concerned? I always tell folks God gave us two ears, one to intake, and another to outtake, if you plan on serving the Lord here on earth, you better grow a thick skin, and learn how to use that outtake ear more often. :)