Offending someone....

Hello,

Is it right to tell a person he offended you even if you have offeneded the offender in the past?
I am looking for scripture (KJV) answers if any please.

Thank you

hi, last week a guy i shared a bathroom with for the last 6 months(2dorm rooms)stuck me for some money and stole some med.supplies when he was moving out. i started to seethe but the Holy Spirit came on me like a wonderful flood and told me"aren't you glad that i am your source and that you were the one that was wrongfully used and not the person that used someone that was a friend...is this not what Jesus did for you."joy flooded my soul.i have been a christian for about 50 years and its about time for me to be changed into the image of Jesus.lolrejection and broken trusts are very hard to deal with;without Him.jimp

hi, how about pray for those who dispitefully use you

Sorry I use NASB which I believe is more accurate than KJV. Also the man of God I admire the most uses this version!

Matthew 15:12-Then the disciples came and said to Him, “Do You know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this statement?” But He answered and said, “Every plant which My heavenly Father did not plant shall be uprooted.

Jesus called the Pharisees who got offended as the Plant which heavenly Father did not plant in his garden. They are like weeds.

It is not Good to get offended when someone with Spiritual authority our us corrects us. For instance when an elder in Church corrects us or asks us not to speak in Church. Not getting offended shows our humility.

But when someone speaks harshly to us or insults us, I don't believe it is wrong to tell them that it is offending you. For instance when Jesus was struck by a soldier for no reason at all he asked him why he struck him. Jesus has forgiven him immediately but he also asked for his right to be treated with respect (John 18:23).

@jimp,

the person did not offend me by using me
the person offended me when he laughed and cracked jokes at my expense
as well as spoken hurtful words about me to another
(i overhead the telephone conversation)

There is another situation (between myself and a different friend of mine)where I was the one that betrayed trust in the friendship, this particular person has offended me with words that are not edifying, more like stumbling blocks ... this person constantly does this to me. I don't believe this person knows, otherwise the person would stop.

This is why I asked the question I originally asked. Thank you for suggesting me to pray for that person. I still will pray for them.

Should I tell these offenders they offended me or not? Or let it go?