It is as pointless to plead against 'charismatic chaos' as the speaker puts it, as it is to plead against the excess in reformed circles. The balance is not to be found here as both sides are out on a limb.
The balance is to be found in holiness teaching and the speaker did not say anything about holiness. It is not just an 'add on' for either sides to consider. Their whole theology needs a reform and the answer is to be found in 1 Cor 13.
13:8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.13:9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
13:10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
13:12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
Perfect - helios means one thing in scripture and it is the subject of the whole of the books added together. Perfect is not the canon nor the end of all things. It is the state of perfection in this life. Paul shows us that it is for this life using the analogy of a child/man. Putting away childish things is meant to explain the partial becoming complete. Or looking through a darkened mirror to seeing properly.
So what he is saying is that, when the perfect state comes, the incomplete practise of the gift of knowledge and prophecy shall become fully operational as we will then be united in that perfection to the Saviour. Tongues cease anyway and are given a Greek verb that means this gift ceases in itself.
This is because they were for a sign for those who did not believe 1 Cor 14:22 that is to say the Jews at that time not for non Christians who happen to wander into a Christian service on a Sunday, pretty unlikely at that time and now. The sign was given at Pentecost but did continue for a time and Paul did not ban it but let it cease on its own but he did try to bring order to the crazy Corinthians who went overboard with the gift.
When Paul is speaking about looking through a mirror darkly, he is talking about the state before 2 Cor 3:18 where he says we behold the glory of God face to face and changed into His image which is the state of perfection, in this life or also known as entire sanctification.
So we see that neither camp is looking for the full restoration of man found in the true revivals of this doctrine.
What is good about this dispute over strange fire, is that I feel that it is a last ditch attempt to separate believers into opposite unbalanced camps by Satan, due to the coming revival of the true balanced theology of holiness teaching and therefore the revival we have been looking for.