My precious Brother in JesusI have read your story and I can share in what you are going thru. What your going thru is called co-dependency. It means you need someone else's emotions for your to be stablized. Most people including myself needs another for emotional support to survive. I was very much like you especially if someone that I had attached myself too is no longer there. And this seems to be the case for you. We turn to the beggerly elements of lust and pornography because we think that that might hold some support, but we find out that it delivers a seaons of pleasure but not everlasting peace, and peace is what you need in your soul that is raging.The holy Spirit is looking for you to turn to Jesus, and to talk to Him, so that He can be your true source of stablity. As a group here at Sermon Index we can pray for you but it is finally up to you to make the decision to want to be helped. That sounds like slap in the face doesn't?, but that question was poised at me one time and I took great offence to it, but I realized that tho my head was saying I wanted help but my heart was not looking for a way out, it wanted to feel justified and righteous, my condition is a result of someone else let them pay. I am glad that the LORD showed me the error of my ways and I repented of this evil and now receive His help and the help of those around me whom He sends.If you still have internet access, I HIGHLY recommend you get a filter www.integrity.com and when you install this get someone else to put in a password, so you can't tamper with it. Once that is in place your desires for pleasure on the internet will become dim and you won't even think about it anymore. I know, this has helped me tremendously.I would put it off and put if off for months, because I thought I could handle it, but each time I fall into it time and time again. The reason why you can't concentrate in your schooling is because God is trying to get your attention. You won't fail again, if you put God first in your life. Jesus said, "Without me you can do nothing", Paul said, "You are not your own, you have been bought with a price".What you have been doing as I see in your letter is that your frustrating the Grace of God, by doing things that you know is not good for you but do it anyway.I was a Trekky fan like you, I would watch all the TNG everyday, but the holy Spirit spoke to me and said "I don't want you watching this anymore the idea's and concept are antichrist in nature". I obeyed.......for awhile, and I went back into it when I felt just like you, lonely and full of despair.Sometime later, I got away from them altogether. God is wooing you to Himself, respond to Him. He doesn't expect you to get on your knees in some pious fashion so you can talk to Him, just open your mouth and cry to Him, even if all you can say is "LORD Jesus, Save Me". He will comfort you, He will come to you, that I can promise. He will blanket you with peace, and you will sleep with that knowledge that all is well.I know what I am talking about, I've been where you have been. Your a work in progress, and God wants to work on you, what you need to do is to obey Him. Brother we all want to know the will of God for our lives, but believe me you don't want to know it all, you only want to see a little at a time. There are seasons when some of us don't pray at all, it seems like we just entered a desert of extreme loneliness and we just sit there and don't say nothing. We long for things to happen, we desire the changes to occur, but nothing happens. Then there are other seasons when we can't get enough of prayer, there seems to be a pot roast of His word on the table everyday to gnaw on.Other times we wonder if there is anymore food left. These times come and they go, but all are there to try us, what do we want? Him or the things He supplies? Of course it is Him that we want. And we continue to endure.My friend let me tell you something about myself and my walk with Jesus. I haven't felt the Spirit of God move upon me in a great way in years. I told Him years ago, "LORD, if I don't know you, I don't want the power". I have got to know Him and His ways. Those two things are the most important things in my life as a believer, I careless about anything else, but that knowing Him and His ways.I have gone thru many dark valleys of extreme loneliness, I have made my bed in hell, and found the LORD to be right beside me. You see all your ills can be solved, just by repentance. Willing to turn away from everything that your doing and allow the holy Ghost to snip those things from your life. For me, somethings was instantanously, most have been over time, but it was worth it.You don't need to keep giving your heart to God, you are His child, you just need to repent. A bit of fasting wouldn't hurt either, this clears the mind and helps the Spirit speak to you. Feeding the flesh with food keeps our appetites for the things of our flesh active but when we obstain for a season it gives your spirit man a chance to grow and you will benefit greatly by doing this. If you plan to do this, I highly recommend you start out with soups and vegetable or fruit juices to wean yourself off of solids. If you are a coffee and tea drinker you will experience headaches, so you may want to take aspirin for the first couple of days. If you can endure to the fifth day your home clear. You won't feel any hunger pangs but drink plenty of spring water.I too had a prayer partner and we used to pray every night for revival and we prayed for hours, and the holy Spirit met with us. But that was stopped because of circumstances that was beyond our control. I long to have that again and I have prayed that that might happen but that prayer has never been answered yet, I think I know why.After you have fasted for a least 14 days or more it's up to you and you won't die, you'll do your body a world of good and your spirit man will be stonger because your appetite for the word will increase and you WILL feel more secure in Jesus.Just as you started the fast, it is the same way as you end it, start with watery soups, for the first two days and then eat thicker soups. Don't drink any coffee or tea or fruit drinks, doing this will give you a "high" that you won't like. You can start drinking those when you start eating solids. Solids meaning bread and vegetables etc.. meats should be eaten a week after the fast has been broken.But they also say to consult your doctor if you go on such a fast, I have never did.I hope some of this has helped you brother, and take heed and open your heart to the other brethern who will offer hope and enouragement as well. We are all here to help in some way, not willing any should leave discouraged.Take CareKarl ;-)