Savannah:
This can be a sticky subject and has caused much debate in Christian circles. Many people who read, quote, and hold up John 3:16 banners at sporting events misinterpret and/or misunderstand what this verse is actually saying.
For me I have read this verse thousands of times and was one of my very first memory verses but I never saw what it plainly says about the love of God. Very much like the many testimonies I have heard from the Jewish brethren who have read and studied OT scriptures that clearly represent the person of Jesus Christ and never saw Him before and then one day the scales are removed and there He is.
Most of the people that come against what John 3:16 really says are those whom love there sin and have absolutely no motivation to repent and stop sinning because they love their sin and they think God loves them anyway while they choose to continue in and practice their sin.
They say, God loves everyone in spite of what they choose to do with the person of Jesus Christ. Jesus says, Unless you repent, you will perish.
So, lets look at what this verse clearly says.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that WHOSOEVER BELIEVETH....
It does not say whosoever does not believe.
Gods love only benefits those who believe and receive that love. If we truly believe we will respond to that love through obedience and repentance, Jesus says if you love Me, keep my commandments, he who says he loves Me and keeps not My commandments is a liar and the Truth (Jesus) is not in him.
Gods love is available and sufficient to save every soul ever born from the time of Adam, but we all know that many or most as the original language indicates, will not choose to believe, repent, turn, and obey.
God already knows before we are even born if we will choose to believe. So the question is does God love those whom He knows will reject Him in the end?
Psalm 5:5 says, The foolish shall not stand in His sight and God hates all WORKERS of iniquity. A worker of iniquity is one who will not believe, repent, or obey therefore they reject God. A worker is one who DOES, ABIDES IN, PRACTICES, CONTINUES IN,and COMMITS sin.
Gods love is available to all but demands a response, if we end up not responding, and ultimately end up separated from Him for eternity can we still say God loves or loved those people?
This topic has been heavily debated here before but when we preach the Gospel and only tell sinners that God loves them, for some, that is not enough motivation to cause them to turn and repent. I have heard many, even in my own family, who believe God loves them in spite of their love for their sin and they have no fear of God to stop and turn from their sin.
They believe when they die, God still loves them and would never send them to hell.
John 3:36 KJV He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
Gods wrath abides and continues upon a person until he responds to Gods offer of love. Yes it is available for the taking but while we are in a state of rebellion it is wrath and not love that abides upon us.
I will close with this, NO MAN, knows the beginning and end of another human being, only God knows. I may get into trouble for judging here, but when Adolph Hitler was born, God already knew his end, that AH would ultimately be used of the devil to cause the death of millions of people and end up murdering himself.
AH never responded to Gods love, it was available to him, but ultimately he rejected it. In past tense, we can now say AH is separated from God, at what point can we, looking back, ever say that God still loves or loved AH?
Agape Love, Gods Love, is unconditional and is available to all, including AH but it has conditions we must meet. We must believe, repent, confess, and continue and endure to the end. The Apostle Paul is one of many we can say God loves, now presently, AH is not one we can say God loves or ever loved.