When I was a new Christian I spent many useless hours (weeks, even months!) wrangling over words. I'd argue over anything and everything: Can a Christian be possessed by demons? Do you have to be sprinkled or immersed to be truly baptized? Should you be baptized in the name of Jesus only or in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit?
An excellent quote by Keith Green, and it is very true we can be contientious, wrangle and dispute over subjects that do not really matter. I agree fully with this, and James 3 is clear that we need victory over our tongue to speak blessings not cursing and edify not tear down.
Our Lord was the best example to us, actually the perfect one, who did not come in silence but with words, well fit and chosen. He spoke no "idle" word and did everything in "love." So I believe for "most" of us the option is not to stop speaking or writing, it is to do it led by the Holy Spirit to do what God would want, to edify, uplift, speak in love.
James 3:13-18 New International Version (NIV)
Two Kinds of Wisdom
13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such "wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
One thing I did not agree with that I believe is very important to briefly mention is this: " Should you be baptized in the name of Jesus only or in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit?" Though from a heavenly perspective God does look at the heart and the sincerity of heart, there are scriptures, the apostles teachings and clear church history that passed on the way the apostles practiced certain things. One of these is the Holy Trinity which all the Church upheld, baptized in and stood against other heresies speaking against it or contrary.
From modern pentecostals Oneness and baptizing in Jesus Name is a "new" doctrine but also a re-hashing of an old one, it is a wrong belief and it "does" matter not to believe it. When it comes to the very character of God and who God is, these are non-negotiables.
I hope this quote from Keith Green does bear fruit in all our lives to watch our tongues (James 2) and see to be those that bless others, we are all one body of Christ together and should seek to encourage each other along the pilgrim way.