Oh my kan8994,I can't even begin to tell you what I'm feeling right now. This 'situation' has put tears in my eyes.Gery is right about your 'sensitive spirit', but if I knew how to change the font size on this posting thing, I would write in big green letters ... SISTER, DON'T TELL HIM, PLEASE.You'll never live it down from him. He'll double check you all the more, and even when you tell the truth from now on, he'll say, 'How do I know if you are, because you already ......'Your relationship with Jesus is all that is going to matter when you stand before HIM one day ... and if you felt guilt over this, you've already 'confessed your sin, and God has forgiven you and cleansed you' ... probably even before you spoke it to HIM... though I seriously question, sincerely, if this indeed was "sin" to begin with, but since it's now not being done "in faith", then it has become sin for or to you. Be it as it is, God has you cleansed.But to confess something that is not a sin, in a "normal" home, to an unsaved man, who "normally" looks for the splinter in your eye, when there is much more than a beam in his own ,,, (actually the unsaved are "blind" altogether), is playing Russian Roulette with your future sanity.I only speak from experience, I can't of course say to you or anybody else "thus saith the Lord", but I can only say, Lots of experience with unsaved, or backslidden couples, has opened my eyes, that as one Preacher said, "You two have 'different fathers' and when you deal with your husband, you actually have to deal with your 'father-in-law'.Also, there are some good authors out there, that teach very well on "When to confess and when not to", that if you could only find, I think it would help you to see, that we don't always do it. In some cases God no where near advises to in view of "who" it is, we are confessing to and what the outcome will be, as far as the plausibility of reaping a unneeded painful whirlwind as a result.Sometimes we use "confessing" as a sort of penance, to work off the guilt, that Jesus already took. It takes Godly wisdom, to know when and "who" to confess to, and when not to to some.Everyone here knows how I feel about "submission", but this goes beyond submission.You worked and earned that money, and in a "normal" home (saved or unsaved) that little bit you drew out each week is a mere pittance.Like Gery said, pay off the credit card, and follow your conscience from there ... I would only warn that "confessing" to certain people, especially irrational unsaved folks, could cost you more than you ever thought you'd pay for a legitimate act, or lets just call it, NOT A SINFUL ACT ON YOUR PART... in a "normal" home.I know unsaved husbands, who are nothing like what you are describing as your situation, so you are dealing with a double whammy here, in that not only is he unsaved, but he is irrational and abusive ta boot.God go with you and be with you and I know we all that post to this or read this will be praying for your protection. AMEN !You have to treat this man as you would any other unsaved person. To Love him as you do any other unsaved person and do all to just be a "witness", but you cannot act with him as you would with a Rational-Saved husband.I haven't said it all, because I pray as Gery said, you'll get it ALL from God Himself ... but just from what I've counciled folks with and have seen happen ... I only give that one recommendation.Stay in His Love, and KNOW His forgiveness is instaneous.Annie
