A question on christian relationships

My brothers ands especially sisters in Christ I have a question, do you think that it is wise to tell a fellow sister in Christ that you have feelings for her, if she is involved with somebody?The truth is that I have had feelings for this sister for a long time and the feelings are not dying, no matter how many times I have asked the Lord to take them away. I have considered writing her a letter, but I am not sure if its better to let it carry on and keep struggling on, by the Lords grace, it just seems to cause so much pain sometimes and I don't want to tell her, because I want her to be happy.Any thoughts Blessings Craig :-)

If she is involved in another relationship, it is not wise to confess some sort of romantic feelings for her. Such would simply be an act of selfishness, and not love. "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you." If you were her boyfriend, you would not like it if some other guy came up to her and started speaking about such. So, don't do it yourself. It would show neither love nor respect for either of the individuals, who are your brothers and sisters in Christ. You might want to check out Chip Ingram's "Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships." Good book.

Thank you King Jimmy for your honesty, I have already decided that I wasn't going to tell her, but you point of view helps. Blessings in ChristCraig

http://gospeljohn.com/dating.htm Here is an article that is thought provoking when it comes to dating.

Just wanted to say that I thoroughly enjoyed reading the testimony on the weblink given by PreachParsly. Really sound and encouraging,...I thank God that I attend a church where this standard of holiness in the area of relationships is upheld.God bless,NR :-)

Thank you for posting that article!It was a good read for me. :-)

Follow hard after God.Seek His Face.He is an ever present help.He will lead and guide you.I pray that He will give you His Wisdom concerning this.God Bless you.Nellie :-)

If God's will is for you to be with this lady, then you have to believe that He will make it happen.Do you believe this? Well, it happened to me. When I first knew my husband he was with another girl - in highschool. He never knew I existed. One day, as I was chatting with a friend, I suddenly blurted out, "See that guy over there. I am going to marry him." I believe that it was God who gave that little prophetic sneak pre-view. Anyway, I watched that "guy" have a variety of girl-friends for the next few years. I had no problem with that because I knew that my day would eventually come. And then the day came when we connected.... and five years later we were married. Feelings are hard to change - expecially once they become strong. But I do not believe that our feelings should determine our actions. They don't even necessarily indicate God's will for us. It's wonderful that you are leaving this lady with God - in spite of your feelings. I fully trust that God will bless you as a result. Diane

You might want to check out Chip Ingram's "Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships." Good book.Will second that. Have not read the book but have heard Chip's messages on this over the years, and know that a great deal in this book is from those. Chip it was that brought A.W.Tozer to my 'Knowledge' :-) and ultimately to all this vast treasure here.

An awesome message to listen to is by Tim Dilena (you can find it on this site under: other speakers) called 'Reading between the Lines'. It really puts things into perspective in terms of making God our number one priority and keeping a pure heart. It has a lot of references to pursuing Godly relationships and really setting our hope in Christ. If you get a chance to listen to it, I think it will really bless you.Roxi